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Most of us will be spending Thanksgiving, and possibly the whole weekend with our families. For many that is a treat, something to look forward to and relish every moment of. For some of us this is a mandatory family gathering filled with anxiety, awkward moments, and subject that cannot be discussed. Now if you think I’m being cynical you’re probably in that first category, but let’s be honest, countless movies have been made about how unpleasant family holidays can be and I know some of you are not looking forward to Turkey day. Here are some ways that entertainment can make the holidays run a little smoother.
5. A good book or magazine: So, if you aren’t a fan of football, thanksgiving can drag on and on as everybody else is completely sucked into whichever ball game is on TV. Well, maybe this year you should bring something to read. While everybody else is engrossed in the game you can settle down for some me time, while you slip into a turkey and potato related haze.
4. Your iPod: You can use your iPod to block out any thing or anybody you would rather avoid. Maybe you always get stuck cleaning up, listening to some tunes while you scrape the dishes clean always makes it more fun. If your family likes music, you can plug in your iPod and become the house DJ, so you don’t get stuck listening to that Christmas album your mom puts on every year.
3. Christmas Movies on TV: For the next month It’s A Wonderful Life and A Christmas Story will be playing on a loop, but on Thanksgiving you probably haven’t seen any of these Christmas classics for at least eleven months, so enjoy them while you can, because by December 15th you will never want to hear the worlds Christmas, holiday or gift again.
2. Eat until you fall asleep: OK, eating and sleeping are not typically considered forms of entertainment, but a turkey induced nap can be as enjoyable as a good book or your favorite love song.
1. Go to the movies: In my family I am known as “Aunt Sonja who takes us to the movies.” The kids and I always seem to share the need to get out of the house during these family events, so we go check out what’s playing at the multiplex. This year you can take the little ones to see Bolt. Take the teen girls to Twilight, the teens boys to Transporter 3 or Quantum of Solace and for the grown up tastes Australia, Milk and Four Christmases all come out on Thanksgiving day.
So, enjoy the holidays, love the ones your with and take advantage of entertainment to get you out of any unpleasant situations!
With Christmas being around the corner, most people are singing the holiday cheer while others cringe when the thought of seeing a Santa appears, knowing the annual family get-together follows. And since holiday family dinners reunite relatives to discuss their lives and shopping lists becoming more of a competition than being a gift of love, it’s easy to feel a little down when compared to others. If you ever find yourself in a situation where people start to criticize you or you start to become a little “green” (with envy) here are a few suggestions to remember.
1) Me, Myself and I. I’m not saying be conceited, but show yourself respect. Know that you are worthy of the best in life and your worth is not judged by material things. If you view yourself (whether its appearance, work ethic, popularity, etc.) in negative perspective, you will mostly attract negative people and pessimistic things will happen to you. Believing that you are “somebody”, an independent, self-sufficient, beautiful, successful woman will help generate positive energy.
2) Do You. Many people value their friends, family members and co-workers opinions on their lives. Much so that they’re not willing to listen to their inner voice. Living your life by someone else’s rules is an oxymoron. It’s your life; you are the one who controls what you can or can’t do.
3) My Life/Your Life. We all have fantasies of what our dream life would be and/or have goals (whether it’s academic or financial) to achieve. However, if you encounter that cousin who always beats you to punch in terms of life and career goals, be envious for a second, let it go and focus on accomplishing your life goals. Don’t listen to anyone who talks negatively about your accomplishments. If you’re happy with how your life is working (you have a great job, in a great relationship and on your way to finish your degree, etc.) don’t let other people’s opinions bring you down
I’ll bet you’ve heard at least one person who has asked you to go green, whether it’s a classmate, friend or even watching Al Gore‘s “An Inconvenient Truth”. Now, with the economy at its worst, and global warming changing out natural weather climates (constant wild fires in California, low amounts of snow in the Northeast compared to the last decade), “going green” seems to be the best way to help the environment. Becoming more energy efficient in areas like (fashion, food and electricity) are beneficial, and your laundry is no exception. Here are a few tips that can help you become more energy efficient and save some money.
1) The Laundromat is available. If you wash your clothes at home, why not try going to the local Laundromat. Although it’s basically going from one washer machine to the next, according to Planet Green, com, it definitely helps, “Commercial washers and dryers tend to be more efficient than domestic versions, so taking your bundle to the neighborhood ‘mat may use less energy.”
2) Use A Line. Once washing your clothes in a washer mine, do you use the dryer afterwards? Next time, try hanging a clothes on a line, whether in your home or outside. It will help decrease the amount the energy that dryers use and save you a couple bucks.
3) Dry-cleaning can be hazardous. According to Planet Green.com dry cleaning business have a chemical they use, percholoroethylene that can cause harm to your health. “Exposure to this chemical has been linked to increased risks of bladder, esophageal, and cervical cancer; eye, nose, throat and skin irritation; and reduced fertility; among other effects.”
With the recession in full swing, the odds of finding a job now are slim to none. However, if you’re stuck in a 9 to 5 and striving for something more but not sure what, maybe a career change is needed. Too often people, women especially, choose to work in a profession that their parents want them too or choose to work at a job that is in high-demand, to provide for their families. But life is about doing what’s best for you.
Regardless of whether you’re a recent college grad looking for that first job or a mom working at a thankless job only for the salary. If you’re not happy at you’re current work situation and want a change of scenery, it’s your duty to leave. Too often people who stay at jobs they dislike can result in unwanted stress, pessimistic thinking and negative effects on their selves as well as friends and families. I’m not saying quit your current job ASAP, by all means, if you need the money, stay. But you can look for a career while working. Finding that special career can be difficult, but here a few suggestions that may help.
1) What is your favorite activity? Are you a craftswoman at heart? Do you go to the local lounge on freestyle nights to showcase your singing talents? If there is something you have a passion for, find a way to make it into a career. Let’s say, you like working with children and teens and their discussing their current problems while being a motivator but being a teacher is not your forte. Becoming a guidance counselor or social worker would be right up your alley.
2) If that doesn’t help, think about talents that you are good at and combine them with a favorite past time. Like, if you’re a fashion fanatic but you don’t desire to design clothes or write about the latest trends in a fashion magazine. However, you make weekly visits to the mall & local boutiques and always provide the best style advice to your friends. Combine your love of fashion and shopping and becoming a personal shopper is a great career move.
Thanksgiving and Christmas are literally right around the corner and now is the season to do good onto others. Most people choose to volunteer at a homeless shelter or senior citizens home, or help clean up a local park and using the time they have to benefit their community. If you want to contribute your time by doing community service but don’t know which organization to join or have trouble finding one that suits your needs, here a few suggestions (and websites).
Is there a cause that you are passionate about? For example, do you get frustrated and sad whenever you hear that a child has been abused by a relative, parent or guardian? Do you want to have a more positive influence on children who are emotionally and physically hurt? Become a tutor or mentor to a child. Child Advocates, is an organization that helps train people to be volunteers to children who have been victims of horrific abuse or neglect and are now in protective custody.
Or, if you don’t have a preference of where you want to volunteer, check out Community Service.org. By just typing your zip code, choosing how far you would like your organization to be, you will find a list of places to use your time to help others.
If you have a couple weeks off and are interested in providing aid to others who live outside North America, you can volunteer abroad. Volunteer Abroad, is a website that provides information for people who want to provide help internationally to people who are don’t have the benefit of having the simplest resources (clean water, healthy foods, and safe shelter) that we often take for granted.
If you don’t want to volunteer alone, bring along friends and family and volunteer as a group. Go over to the local hospital and spend some quality time with a few patients who need a little laugh and some company. The National Breast Cancer Foundation is always looking for new people to volunteer and bring cheer to patients who need it. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you volunteer by the end of this year, good deeds only bring good things.
I told you there would be more to come. Take notes and enjoy!
3. Sporting events: Let me clarify this— ladies, sit as close as you can to the court, field, diamond, etc. Why you ask? Because nosebleed seats are not sexy and you can’t get a feel for any type of man if you can’t see. Besides, the closer you get to the front, the more crowded it is and the more you WILL be seen (as you are walking up and down the stairs to the bathroom, concession stand, ev’ryone notices you— I have done it many, many times). You WILL leave a visual imprint, and they will talk to you during intermission or after the game. Also, make sure you go to the exclusive lounges during intermission. It may be a little pricier, but the atmosphere is slightly more cosmopolitan and you don’t have to worry about tripping on the stairs in your heels (yes, I said heels– keep the sexy on at all times, single or married!)
4. Wine bars: REAL wine bars, not just clubs and regular ol’ bars. Wine bars where you actually acquire a taste for wine and the sommelier (look it up if you need to) helps you select the right type for you by taste and smell. Move your game past white Zinfandel and Chardonnay….plus, if he likes fine wine, he usually likes fine women….and you should be right up his fine alley. For more info on wine tasting, check out this prior post right about here.
When your thirsty or just want to grab a quick drink, what’s your go-to-drink? A Pepsi, or a medium coffee, light no sugar courtesy of Dunkin Donuts? If you find yourself going for beverages that are high in sugar and/or calories, maybe you should try a drink that doesn’t cost much and is included in your home: water. Drinking water everyday can help improve your health, inside and out.
1) It can help keep your heart healthy. According to Dumb Little Man.com, ” A six-year study published in the May 1, 2002 American Journal of Epidemiology found that those who drink more than 5 glasses of water a day were 41% less likely to die from a heart attack during the study period than those who drank less than two glasses.”
2) It can help prevent cancer. Dumb Little Man.com also states that drinking water can help reduce the risk of colon cancer, breast cancer and bladder cancer. Like other studies, a healthy diet can help reduce the chance of having cancer.
3) No More Headaches. Dehydration is a symptom of headaches. When our bodies don’t get enough water, we become fatigued and tired, which can cause headaches. Drinking water adds energy to your body, which makes you feel energized and less tired.
4) Lose Weight. Today, a milkshake can have the same amount of calories as a cheeseburger. According to A Calorie Counter.com, a large White Castle Chocolate Shake has more calories when compared to a Burger King Triple Whopper, 1680 to 1230. The average calorie intake should be around 2000 calories. By replacing your favorite milkshake or Pepsi with an 8 ounce cup of water, you can reduce your caloric intake.
5) It helps improves your skin. Dehydration takes a toll on your body, especially your skin. According to Medince Net.com, “Dehydration makes your skin look more dry and wrinkled, which can be improved with proper hydration,” he says.”But once you are adequately hydrated, the kidneys take over and excrete excess fluids.”
The economy is not the only thing having a rough time these days…it’s hard out there for a single girl to find the man of her dreams. What’s the point in being fab if you have no one to share it with? We ladies have more than enough resources that direct us on how to hunt ‘em down, catch ‘em, and keep ‘em….but where do you find them? For years, I have been telling my girls that they will NEVER find any good thing hanging in a club. Please believe me, if his first glance is you in a teeny weeny mini and boobage overspill, it’s usually not love at first sight. On the other hand, ladies, it’s almost like we are playing “Where’s Waldo” when we set our sights on the man of our dreams…and then stalk him all night, hope that he notices us, and, if he doesn’t, casually try to find a way to give him our number without him falling for our equally attractive girlfriends. It can be nerve wracking! Here is Part 1 of a 3 part series:
Well, I have a few good places to find a few good men, depending on what you are looking for….
If I weren’t married, these are some of the top places where I would find a man who presents class, distinction, taste, quality, style, and seemingly good credit:
1. Political fundraisers: Okay–yes, I did say it—high donor level political fundraisers usually have an overabundance of men who are smart, cultured, and dare I say it…enterprising! (take it whatever way you want to take it—most women want men who they can build with, one way or another). Point in case: I attended the Barack Obama fundraiser last Spring and there was a plethora of available and well-cultured men. But, this type of event is not for the money squeamish. The minimum donation was $1000 a plate and my business partner and I walked in behind Forest Whitaker and his wife, Keisha. But, if I were single, I would have had at minimum 6-10 potential dates in the upcoming weeks.
Think about it this way:
Wearing some fab Dior or Louboutin heels: $1000
Finding a life partner: Priceless
2. Cigar bars: Even if you don’t smoke, endure the chokefest for a few hours. For one, you will be one of the only females in the joint (bring a friend if you are skeered to go solo) and for two, most men who are cigar connoisseurs have more talk about than their favorite sports team….. plus, according to the hubby, a woman smoking a cigar is one of the sexiest sights known to man….
Do you ever find yourself worried or stressed with your tasks during the day and see your male friend, boyfriend or co-worker have similar problems but doesn’t stress as easily? Studies have shown that women are known to be the more emotional sex when compared to men and now studies have shown that women are prone to more anxiety. This isn’t a study based on the average day of a woman and her experiences at work, school or home, but actual scientific research that states women are genetically prone to worry more.
According to the Anxiety Disorders Association of America, women are twice as likely to worry as men. Dr. Patrice Harris, who was featured in a CNN article about women and anxiety, states “Early research suggests that men and women are wired differently,” she explains, but, “the other thing that probably accounts for those numbers might be hormones.”The jury’s still out definitively,” she says, “but some of the reproductive hormones, such as progesterone and estrogen, have been implicated in anxiety.” Even problems with your thyroid glands can cause worry some emotions.
Psych Central.com states that women are more likely to have physical and/or emotional abuse during their lifetime; this can definitely cause long-term anxiety. Other research states when women’s menstrual cycles may have a part. When women’s amount of estrogen and progesterone decrease, research has shown that PMS can cause women to be more anxious.
Thanksgiving is a couple weeks away, with Christmas sure to follow. And although you may be anticipating your grandmother’s sweet potato pie and home made macaroni & cheese, most people tend to over indulge their selves with their favorite foods over the holidays (this is usually followed by the New Years resolution to loose the “holiday weight”). If you want to enjoy your favorite holiday foods but not so much that you need a whole new wardrobe, here are few suggestions to sustaining your weight while still enjoying tasty holiday treats.
1) Limit Intake of Food. We all know holiday foods are the most scrumptious meals of all time, and want to take full advantage of it. However, if you limit the amount of food you eat, you can sustain your weight. Also, depending on your schedule, you may have a few days to a couple of weeks to indulge your fried chicken or black eyed peas, get a couple of meals as leftovers so you can spend each moment with your favorite dishes.
2) Stay Out Of The Kitchen. For most people, the kitchen is where all the conversations are. Relatives catch up on each others lives, swap recipes and cook all at the same time. But, the kitchen was one main resource that everyone has: FOOD. While slicing tomatoes or baking a chocolate cake, a relative might ask others to try their meals, which could lead to eating more food before the actual dinner. This could interrupt your technique. Keep away from any room that’s close enough to the aroma of your favorite holiday treats. If you’re not in the room and can’t see it and/or smell it, you’re less likely to eat it.
3) Distract Yourself. If anyone else needs help with something other than food; like a niece or nephew working on a project they made up or go for a walk by yourself or with relatives. Learn when dinner will be ready and give yourself that free time to focus on anything dealing with food.